5 Keys to act natural and be real during a session


Have you ever been scrolling through Instagram, or looking at someone’s wedding photos and wondered,

How did they get that?

One of the charms of lifestyle photography is that it is authentic. Sessions are based on real live and real personalities. It feels tangible and genuine. After years of shooting in a studio, it is this style of photography that re-ignited my passion for the craft and prompted me to start my own business. I was craving connection, life and soul in my images. A lifestyle session is a journey you take with another family or couple.

A common misconception is photos with “that natural, effortless look” requires a lot of careful planning in mind. That is usually not the case. In fact, a photo session could be genuine, memorable, exciting and fun!

Here’s how we can do it together.


1.    Let it go…

Whatever images you have envisioned, stop and let them go.

I know that’s a lot easier said than done. You've more than likely stalked the featured galleries and Instagram posts of your favorite photographer and thought "I want our family pictures to look like that!” But I can promise that the families photographs that you're envying ... where most likely not planned. During a session (particularly with kids) what will be, will be. You can’t control it, and if you try- you’re the one likely to ruin photos, not the kids! Life unravels the way it wants to, and that's the absolute beauty of it. A photographer’s job is to capture your family’s truth, not recreate someone’s insta post! No matter what happens during your session, the photos will be breathtaking, unique and full of life- just like your peoples. 

Rather than envisioning what you want the photos to look like, think about how you want to feel when you see your photos, or what can you tell your photographer about your family to help them capture what you’re all about?


2.    Choose a place you feel at home


When picking out locations for photo sessions, I always tell my clients, “You can never go wrong with home.” That being said, the photo-shoot location could be your actual home- or somewhere you feel at home, there are no hard and fast rules.  “Home” could be a place personally significant to you like a nearby beach where you got engaged or a field where your kids play. Again, think about something unique to your family. Wherever the shoot takes place, it is highly important your location choice makes you feel comfortable and engaged with your surroundings.


3.    Wear who you are


Wondering what to wear is a common worry among my clients. We are so swamped with beautiful imagery on social media- some posts are inspiring, some just make us confused about how we like to dress and what is comfortable to you.

My advice? Wear who you are. In other words, wear clothes that you feel good and relaxed in- Pick something that looks like YOU. There are no rules about colours or styles of clothing- Are you a bold, loud and boisterous family? Wear designs that showcase that. Are you laid back, boho and a bit mellow? Neutrals and soft patterns might be more your style. There is no wrong answer. Just be yourself. But try and pick something that reflect your style and taste


4. Focus on the moment, not on the lens.


You can be the most natural and laid back person in real life, but still, when the camera comes out you suddenly suck your gut in and feel overly self-conscious?

.Here’s the secret: focus on the moment. Focus on sharing this once in a lifetime experience with your love ones. If you are holding your baby, hold them as if you were alone and no one was there. If you are walking with your partner on the seaside hand in hand, walk as if this was one of your many conversations you both enjoy. If your kids are mucking up- don’t stress, just play with them, be silly! Reminisce, be playful or just peaceful and enjoy a quiet moment together. Whatever your feeling will come through in the images, so rather than worrying about what you look like, be present with your people.

Focus on the moment. Focus on the now.


5.    Be yourself


Still feeling self-conscious? Trust your photographer has your back. We know the flattering angles and the perfect lighting- it’s all good, you will look fabulous.

At the end of the day, you know yourself and your family. You want images that you will truly treasure, and memories that you will cherish.  Be yourself even it means laughing out loud, crinkles and all. Be yourself even it means exposing your stretch marks or scars. Be yourself even if it means stepping outside your comfort zone and showing how much your love ones mean to you with dotting kisses and warm hugs.

It’s by being real and true to yourself that we can create images that will last a lifetime.

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